I’m Not a Superhero
“I’m not a superhero, Mom. I’m Jonas.
These words uttered by my three-and-a-half year old caused me to pause.
On the drive home, he was his typical bundle of joy–always smiling, laughing and basking in the joys of life.
I jokingly said to him, “Jonas, you are my superhero, my superson!”
“But, Mom, he said, I haven’t saved the world!”
This caused a chuckle and then he said to me in more serious tone.
“I’m not a superhero, Mom. I’m Jonas.”
I was reminded of all the times he says something similar.
“I’m not a comedian. I’m Jonas.”
“I’m not a goof. I’m Jonas.”
Etc. He says it a lot. “I’m Jonas.”
Though he’s three and doesn’t obviously really get it. This did make me take note that he is very comfortable in his skin. He doesn’t want to be anyone but himself. Not even a superhero.
This made me think of the topic of worth and confidence. These are very profound and difficult aspects to achieve.
At the age of three, Jonas seems to have a sense of worth (that he doesn’t get from me). He doesn’t have to be anything other than himself. He doesn’t have to be “more.” He doesn’t have to perform great feats or impress anyone. He just wants to be him.
A byproduct of going through LifePlan was my contemplating the difference between confidence and worth.
Let’s take worth first. One of the most powerful statements I’ve heard someone say was this: “You are enough. Exactly as you are, you are enough. In fact, you’re fantastic because you are exactly as God intended.”
You see, worth is not variable. Or dependent. A person’s worth is constant and of great value their entire life.
It is not dependent on goals or achievement. So, this brings up the conversation of all those goals we’ve set for 2016. When we don’t achieve these goals we set for ourselves, there is a personal affect. The key is that it can affect your confidence, not your worth. Your confidence is your belief in yourself. When you fail to lose those 10 pounds, fail to get that next big job or fail to spend more time with your family, it’s a reality that we feel bad.
Honestly, I think that’s okay. It means we care about that end result we failed to achieve.
However, your worth has not gone down. Remember, your worth, whether it be from a god or another source, is constant. You are enough, just as you are.
Does that mean we quit striving? Quit goal setting? Quit working to improve?
Of course not. We always want to be working towards our best self. Our best self brings value to others, which is one of the most beautiful things about life.
However, you don’t have to be a superhero.
Take that hidden gem in my son’s comments. It’s truly powerful.